Showing posts with label gratitude. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gratitude. Show all posts

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Gratitude is Good For You!

Gratitude is defined as the quality of being thankful for what is, some noteworthy aspects of gratitude are:
·         Gratitude is an affirmation of goodness
·         Gratitude recognizes that this goodness comes from outside of the self

Gratitude is profoundly positive emotion, it is a key component in positive psychology. Yet it is frequently discounted or overlooked as a tool for improving mood. Recent scientific studies have demonstrated a number of benefits that come as a direct result of cultivating and practicing gratitude.  Gratitude inspires us to take better care of our health and helps us cope with stress. Those who practice gratitude also have stronger relationships and immune systems, lower blood pressure, and more joy! Recognizing what we are thankful for is a fairly straightforward and simple practice which does not require any equipment or monthly fees, it’s silly not to practice gratitude!

How your life can grow with gratitude
Grateful people experience an increased sense of well-being and joy. Gratitude also increases optimism, empathy,  and self-esteem. Being appreciative can change the emotional landscape of your life in other ways too,  a 2014 study showed that when you thank new acquaintances, they feel more compelled to work for a continued relationship. When you take the time to thank colleagues for contributions, they feel a greater desire to work with you in the future. Gratitude can literally build and strengthen relationships. Gratitude also reduces tendencies toward aggression because grateful people are more sensitive to the feelings of others. Envy is a contributing factor in poor self-esteem and research demonstrates that feeling thankful for what you have reduces the tendency to make social comparisons and feel envious.

Healthy habits
You may have heard that it is not possible to feel gratitude and fear at the same time.  Research has proven that it is true, it is a fact of neurology that the states of fear and appreciation are mutually exclusive. By reducing toxic emotions like fear, frustration, and envy, studies have demonstrated that feelings of gratitude can increase happiness and reduce instances of depression. Additionally, people who practice gratitude report feeling healthier and take better care of themselves, exercising and visiting their primary care physician for regular checkups. resulting in better health overall.

Practicing gratitude
Now that we have demonstrated that cultivating gratitude has myriad benefits, let’s look at a few approaches that you can take to developing your own practice of gratitude.

Gratitude journal
The most popular gratitude practice is probably keeping a gratitude journal. According to a 2014 study, keeping  a gratitude journal results in better, longer sleep, and who can’t use a little more rest in this busy world? To develop this practice, it is recommended that you keep your journal in the same place and choose a time when you will write in it each day. As with any other habit or practice, consistency is key. By spending only 5 minutes each day writing a list of a few things you feel thankful for, you can improve your outlook and your life!

First thoughts/last thoughts
A great way to set the tone of your day is with gratitude. Upon waking, before you spring into action (or stumble to the coffee pot) think of a few things for which you are thankful. This will set a positive tone for the whole day. Alternately, you may choose to spend the last few minutes before you drift off to sleep thinking about the things you appreciate in your life. This will bring your day to a calm and happy close. Preparing you for a restful night of sleep.

Thank you notes
The lost art of the thank you note is something that is seldom remembered, but always appreciated. While those of us who are a little older were taught that taking the time to send a written thank you was vitally important, the practice has fallen out of fashion. If you send thanks to folks who have done something thoughtful for you, you will be amazed by the delight they express at being appreciated in such a concrete way.  This is a special gratitude practice because while you are writing the note, you are in gratitude mode, and then when you experience the appreciation the recipient feels at being appreciated, you will again be put in that state of mind!

These are only a few practices, you may think of ways to consider your own appreciation that works better for you. Developing an attitude of gratitude can literally transform your life. Being appreciative makes you feel better about yourself and more compassionate toward others. Choosing a simple daily practice of gratitude is free and has the potential to improve every part of your daily life. It’s a win-win!


Sincerely, 
Dr. Eileen Wynne

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Monday, June 1, 2015

Get Happy! Simple Ways to Feel Happier This Summer


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Though it is far more reasonable to aim for contentment, than for a constant state of happiness, we all want lots of joy in our lives. As summer approaches and many of us spend more time doing things we love, we have a great opportunity to establish habits that will bring more joy into our lives going forward. Below are several ways you can make the most of your happiness.

The Power of Gratitude
It is well established that being thankful for what you already have is one of the best ways to bolster good feelings. Taking a little time to think about all the great things you have in your life each day and even keeping a daily or weekly journal of all you feel thankful for, helps you to recognize how great your life already is. It keeps you rooted in the present. When you are thinking about how fortunate you are, it is hard to feel sad or inadequate, or to compare yourself to others.

Choose Joy
More and more psychologists are realizing that being happy is a choice. Obviously, if one is clinically depressed, there is more to the story, but generally speaking, intending to be happy, is one of the best strategies for being happy.  Sometimes you have to fake it until you make it, behaving as if you are happy until you start naturally feeling that way, but truly, you can achieve happiness by acting as if you already have it. Some ways to choose happiness include: doing things you love, spending time with people you enjoy, resting when you need to rest, eating well, and getting regular exercise. By caring for yourself, you let everyone know that your own wellbeing matters and you welcome in more people and things that bring joy into your life. Try to make conscious choices each day that demonstrate your commitment to happiness. Do things that make you feel good and you will find that other people with similar values will gravitate to you, creating a more harmonious life.

Eliminate Negativity and Negative Habits
Some negative habits that can kill joy are:
  • Gossiping,
  • Comparing yourself to others,
  • Worrying about what other people think of you,
  • Holding on to anger and resentment,
  • Living in the past, and
  • Trying to control things that are out of your control.

Letting these habits go can change your life dramatically. Cut away the negative behaviors that make you feel bad about yourself and try to see others the way you want to be seen. Instead of gossip, choose compassion. Instead of comparing yourself to others, try to celebrate their achievements with them and to enjoy your own as well. Remember, the grass is always greener and the same person you think has it all might be looking at you and thinking that you have it all. Try not to worry, it causes stress and emotional pain and seldom helps us improve our lives. Instead of worry, try to come up with ways to improve the situations that you would normally have worried about. Taking small actions will help you feel more in control of your life, while worry makes the mind spin and can even cause stress hormones to be released. Let go of the past. Take the valuable lessons you have learned and let the pain go. Release resentment, it seldom has any effect of the object of the feelings, but can cause significant pain to you if you choose to carry it into your future. Forgive others and you will feel lighter and more open to joy. Finally, instead of trying to control things, be flexible. See what comes to you when you are open to new experiences.

Be Active with Friends
Spending time with friends and engaging in activities that you enjoy are some of the best ways to add more joy into your life. Research shows that those who have close, meaningful relationships feel more satisfied with their lives. Sharing your triumphs and sorrows with others connects you and makes you feel like you are part of something larger. Further, engaging in activities that inspire and challenge you can increase satisfaction even more. When you are active and pushing yourself to achieve new goals, you are going to feel better about yourself and your abilities.

Feeling happier is not easy, but it is simple. You can choose practices that science has proven will improve your overall feelings of joy and satisfaction. Train yourself to look for the advantage in every situation. Choose things that make you feel good and eliminate negativity when you are able, be grateful for all your blessings, and you will start feeling lighter and stronger.

Sincerely,
Dr. Eileen Wynne






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